KATYA’S BLOG

COMMUNICATION GONE HAYWIRE

The brain of a person with dementia loses information and words, and their connections to both become haywire. This can create recurring obsessional behavior or give rise to repetitive delusional beliefs. Both are commonly a need to communicate something. One woman was obsessed with wanting to know about Princess Diana’s death. She drove her daughter crazy with repeated questions about how she died, when, and why. Subconsciously

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EMPTY SHELL

This story was recently shared. My MIL had Alzheimer’s and for 15 or more years she had not recognized any of her children… or anyone else. She was 78 yrs. old and had fallen and broke her hip, so she had gone to the hospital. They did her surgery and sent her to a Rehab. My husband (her son) and I had gone to see her, she

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AM I CRAZY?

A woman with Alzheimer’s asked her daughter, “Am I crazy?” and the daughter not knowing how to reply posted on Facebook, “What should I say to her?” It was interesting the myriad of replies. It made me think about what you should say to someone when they are aware something is wrong with their mind but they don’t know they have dementia. Some of the comments were:

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IS IT DEMENTIA TALKING?

Most of the information about dementia tells family and caregivers not to take it personally when your loved one says something mean or hurtful. But is it really dementia talking? It is hard to tell when they are still verbal, especially in earlier stages. It seems like them talking, just a very nasty version of them. They may holler, scold or tell you how awful you are.

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DEMENTIA & INFIDELITY

I was reading a Facebook post about how a woman with dementia keeps accusing her husband of being with other women. Her daughter is very upset about this. She wrote how her 88-year-old father was never unfaithful and how hurt he is by these accusations. However, do we really know what went on in our parents’ earlier life. He could have been unfaithful at some time, and

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LEARNING TO LOVE ONESELF

One of the most challenging parts of life can be to learn to love oneself. Why is it easier to feel love for another person than it is for myself? This last month I’ve been faced with some difficult challenges, and I’ve been forced to do a lot of soul searching. Having to attend to some health issues that seem to be like a revolving door swung

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FACING DEMONS

When dealing with health issues, I find myself having to face my internal demons who have skillfully hidden in the recesses of my subconscious. They lurk in the shadows of my consciousness until my fears over my physical condition feed them, making them strong enough to surface. As we age, most people experience some health decline. But at 72, I’m amazed and frightened at how steep that

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